On the girl’s brown legs there were many small white scars. I was
thinking, Do those scars cover the whole of you, like the stars and
moons on your dress? I thought that would be pretty too, and I ask
you right here to please agree that a scar is never ugly. That is what
scar makers want us to think. But you and I, we must make an agree-
ment to defy them. We must see all the scars as beauty. Okay? This
will be our secret. Because take it from me, a scar does not form on
the dying. A scar means, I survived.
-from “Little Bee: A Novel” by Chris Cleave
I meet women every day who are newly pregnant or having babies and I'm fine. I like it. I like caring for women during their childbearing years. I am also okay at counseling women who want to terminate a pregnancy. I can, for the most part, hold it together when I am talking to someone who has recently found out about a miscarriage, though these are the ones that make me well up with tears. The women I feel a special connection with. I hope that my words to them during their time of suffering provide some sort of emotional band-aid or salve to help them heal.
I have written about how much words can sting an emotional wound. Unintentionally, many people say things that feel like lemon juice upon your recent cut. But words can also help us heal. Simple words, quiet words, peaceful words. Sometimes friends give me word band-aids. Sometimes authors give us all word band-aids. Sometimes perfect strangers give us word band-aids.
Thank you to my friends and family for the word band-aids. The salve on my aching heart. The cool compress on my raging anger.